Story Time: How To Stay Away From Toxic People & Other “Bubbly” Situations


It’s been almost a year and a half since the day the author’s views were publicly mentioned. Ever since, people have expressed their points of view, they’ve chosen not to refer to the series from that day forward or, like today’s story, they’ve chosen to verbally attack people who still enjoy reading the series and speaking about it.

Since the summer of 2020, I’ve been very careful on what comes to this particular series. I know that people have felt personally attacked by a certain author’s points of view. I know that people don’t want to support that author anymore. And I totally get that.

What I really don’t get is why, for the love of dear Lord, people need to verbally attack and bully others, who still feel nostalgic. I don’t understand why they need to act in such toxic ways, bullying people who may talk about a series, that is considered to be a classic after so many years, and post about it from time to time.

And please, don’t tell me they PROMOTE the author because I may IMPLODE!

Something like that happened to a friend of mine the other day, because she dared to post about Harry Potter. She, and her followers on Instagram, were accused of being transphobic and people who still support the author who wrote the books. We were all accused of promoting a very problematic series and we were accusing of not taking place on what the author has said.

This came as a shock to me. Firstly because the eternal 19-year-old inside me was, once again, surprised by how cruel people who don’t know you can be, just for the sake of acting bitchy. (This also has to do with the fact that, thanks to my friend Jo and my therapist, I’ve come to realise that I tend to blame myself sometimes and make others’ problems my very own. Or, as it is mentioned in the fifth book “You care so much you feel as though you will bleed to death with the pain of it.”. That’s me.) Secondly, it shocked me because my friend, who was accused of being transphobic, is nowhere near that spectrum. Or any of us for that matter.

So… were we judged just for loving a book series? Is this how we act nowadays?

I wanna believe that we all use our brains. I wanna believe that we judge people for who they truly are, not for what we believe we may know about them. It is one thing to know somebody and judge them because they were actually wrong. It’s a whole other thing to judge them because we think we know better. Or because we justify certain things the way we want to.

We don’t know better. And when we don’t know better, we keep a low profile, we educate ourselves, we get to know a person better, we discuss with them. Then, and only then, we have the right to talk.

I’m not gonna talk about how this particular series turned me to the avid reader I am today. I’m gonna talk about the lessons it taught me. It taught me courage and bravery. It taught me to never judge a “book” by its “cover”. It taught me that a Slytherin can be brave and a Gryffindor can turn into a traitor. It taught me that people may be charismatic but, they may also have views with which I don’t agree; and there’s a fine chance they don’t agree with some of mine either. But civilised people discuss. They don’t attack each other.

“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”

~ Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

I choose to stick to the lessons of these books. I choose not to lose the bigger picture. And I most certainly choose to stay away from narcissists and toxic people, who simply want to drag me into all those “bubbly”, meaningless situations I tried years and years to get far away from!

I’m still trying to master that sometimes. And I feel grateful for having friends like Jo, who remind me that, acknowledging our flaws and using them to our advantage, is sometimes better that solely focusing on our strengths. Because, in times of need, these flaws can drown us if we haven’t learned to control them.

The world is not divided into good people and Death Eaters. We all have light and darkness inside us.

I simply think we should choose love, above everything. (Yes, I’m a romantic. This will never change.) Because, if there’s one thing the bookish community taught me, is that I can feel loved and safe among people who choose to leave the real world for a while and just travel through fairytales.

I honestly don’t wanna think that this has changed.

Thank you all for stopping by once again. It truly means the world to me and I want you to know that I most certainly don’t take your presence here for granted.

Have a wonderful weekend, dearies. Stay safe and stay positive.

Till next time… Toodles!

5 Comments Add yours

  1. I completely agree with you. I don’t agree with the author at all and I have chosen to to support her anymore but I have kept my Harry Potter books because I love them and they are nostalgic to me. You can still love a book but not agree with or support an author.

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    1. Exactly! The whole thing was impossible for me to fathom! I still cannot believe we were attacked because we love a book series!

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      1. I’m sorry y’all were attacked for it. I understand not wanting to support the author anymore heck I don’t support her anymore but that doesn’t give anyone the right to attack someone for liking something. People need to realize you can have differing opinions to authors but still read there books.

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    2. Sorry, did you mean not* to support her? lol

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  2. Yeah I don’t support her in the fact that I’m not buying anymore of her books and merch and I don’t talk about her books as much anymore but I still have her Harry Potter books and I will continue to reread them. Sorry I just realized there was a typo in that first post.

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